If you are thinking about why this is happening to you and your child, relax, take a deep breath, and read this. Kids give way to throwing brutal tantrums only because of two primary reasons:
1) They lack the needed language skills to communicate their demands.
2) They are still learning to deal with the frustration of not being handed things over and the fact that they have understood that yelling and crying gets them the most attention.
This vicious behavior has got nothing to do with how your child will grow up to be. So, dear jumpy and scared parents, your kid will not turn out sour and demanding, but you have to play specific precautionary steps to avoid the risk of any such behavior later.
Kids at the ages of 2 or 3 tend to throw most naturally, since they are still transitioning from an immobile babe to a human being who now can walk from one room to the other, the confusion of not being able to do the things you do can also cause them to throw a fit.
But you still have it under control, and if you think you’re doing something wrong, here are a few surprisingly easy and effective tips on how to manage your child’s tantrums that we believe will come to your aid in your times of despair.
Tip 1: Give Them Plenty of Positive Attention and Good Vibes
This bit needs a little attention from the parents. You need to get in the habit of catching your kids being good and rewarding them with attention and praise for their good behavior.
Tip 2: Give Toddlers Control Over a Few Things
This dialogue is something every parent should adopt from the very wee years of their offspring. Offer them the opportunity to make choices for themselves. The most common topics should pertain if they want to brush after or before they take their baths or if they’d like orange juice or a pudding for their school lunch. This way, not only are you presenting the idea of brushing before bedtime, or ‘healthy snacks are tasty’, but your minor will also learn the value of their decisions.
Tip 3: Keep Off-Limits Objects Out of Sight and Out of Reach
The best way to avoid future tantrums and struggles at bay would be to obviously keep aside and/or hidden that can spark outrage from your child’s end. It is hard to keep track of things that way and we agree but you should better have a contingency plan for situations like this in the first place if the environment can’t be controlled.
Tip 4: Try Distracting Your Child
The aggressive behavior may not stop for some children even after they get what they want and break what they want. But you can be rest assured about one thing, your kid’s attention span is similar to that of a squirrel. Sorry, but that is just how their brains are wired at that age. We prod you to take advantage of this by offering something else in place of what they can have. You can also try doing a different engaging activity with your kid till his or her anger has been subdued.
Tip 5: Help Them Learn New Skills
The best way to handle your child’s raging and consistent yelling, rather than looking for temporary solutions, build on your child’s character while they are still young. Explain mannerisms and responsibility. Impart lessons on discipline and the value of doing the right thing. And if you are feeling confused as to how you shall accomplish all of that, the answer is too easy. You do that by helping your kids learn to do things. Praise them when they try to help you, make them feel proud of themselves, their choices and their actions.
Tip 6: Always Consider Your Child’s Request Carefully When They Want Something
Ask yourself this one simple question before anything else. Is what your child is asking for outrageous? If not, then maybe even you as a parent may also need a little work on yourself and how much you dominate or decide on behalf of your kids. Choose your battles wisely or deal with the consequences later.
Tip 7: Know Your Child’s Limits
Most kids act cranky whenever they are sleepy or hungry or need a diaper change. This holy trinity of crankiness is common amongst most toddlers that age. Their emotions get reflected through their angry behavior. Don’t haul your kid out for grocery shopping or any other errands just because it’s a half an hour thing. No, you definitely don’t squeeze in grocery shopping between needed diaper changes or else the whole show is going to go south only because of your stubbornness.